Do you!

Get this straight and understand it well: “nobody is rooting for you”.
There will be rare instances where there is an immaterial payoff for people enjoying your win. Maybe just so that they can claim (justified or otherwise) some kind of a stake in your victory. 
Most of the time however any non-resistance to your wins (verbalised or not) are often only because your victory enables or facilitates others winning too – they are rooting for their own self interest, not yours.
Is this wrong?
I am not, take note, NOT talking about people gnawing and salivating at the very thought of your downfall; just those people indifferent more than anything. 
A lot of people just don’t really care if you win. Some of these may be people you want validation from or expect to even have some agenda as a “hater” (often the people who cry most about having haters draw the least interest). A lack of care as opposed to a desire for you not to win, that is what we are talking about today.
The truth is that more often than not we are so caught up in the mythology of other people imagined interest in our lives that we don’t put enough interest into our own.
This cross pollination of imagined interest is probably as close as we will get to genuine care about what is happening in each other’s lives, and even that is selfish inasmuch as its motive is to find purpose/validation – which itself is self-serving.
I for one lost interest in the imagined interest of others in my life and feel so much freer as a result. I knuckle down and work on the Mangena Foundation and my various entrepreneurial enterprises and hold Zero F’s on anyone or anything that does not impact this and my purpose.
That isn’t putting my head in the sand.
I keep up to date with foreign affairs and other things that impact my environment, but I do so with my eyes on my lane and my purpose.
I stay away from the people who don’t clap when I win and laugh/relish my setbacks (only because the energy is toxic and I protect that above most else) and do me.

Bake your bread, butcher your meat, brew your beer, do whatever you were put here to do and do it to the best of your ability. The shoes the cobbler next door is working on matter only if you are buying them or recommending them to someone else who will… DO YOU!

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GMB – Get Obsessed 


Another article lovingly brought to you by Daniel Mangena

Pianos is in one of my favourite areas of Manhattan, NY; the Lower east side. 
On any given business trip out to the big apple I have been known to frequent that haunt more than once. It has such an amazing vibe and the coolest collective of patrons – it’s also where I met one of my best and closest friends.

It was on a trip to this fine watering hole that I met a namesake and also now dear friend who, along with his nephew Andre, were entertaining some friends visiting from California. Daniel taught us an arguably crude and yet very powerful audio anchor for accumulating wealth – GMB:

“Get Money Bitch!”

It really only works to full effect when screamed out loud at the top of your lungs, and is great fun after one or two (three or four…) frozen margaritas! 
It doesn’t always, however, inspire the greatest response from people who hear our little catchphrase. Aside from the profane cadence, it is the stressing of getting money that gets a lot of people’s back up…

Growing up in quite a conservative Christian home myself, the old adage that money is the root of all evil isn’t foreign. But often people miss the most important part of the full phrase; “love of money”.

As a self confessed capitalist however, this is a tough one for me to consolidate. Of course I do appreciate that the love of money is a dark door for many evils, it is also the tool without which one would struggle to do any good. I know this personally, as it is the attainment of wealth that facilitates my family and I to do the works we do all over the world with the Mangena Foundation.

And yet again, putting aside the money part and its associated evils, I wonder how one would achieve any of their financial goals without the secret ingredient that is key to the achievement of any goal or objective – obsession.

I am not saying that love of money and obsession the with it are the same thing. Nor am I saying that an obsession with money is the same as an obsession with the goal of achieving financial freedom, success or a particular goal. But that there must be that obsession, that burning desire, that craving that is as deep as the need to breath, else there will be no success.

This gives rise to a couple of points – you should know definitively what it is you want, and you should also be careful of there being nothing in that desire that acts as a trip wire to your goals. 

For me, the whole “money is evil” thing made it challenging to program in that obsession. I had to go to some extremes (I took a vow of chastity that would only be broken once I made it to a particular net worth). What is your hang up? What is blocking you? Do you even know what it is you want? What is standing in the way of your obsession?

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Love, Life & Being and Entrepreneur


Lovingly brought to you by Daniel Mangena…

As an entrepreneur your choice in life partner becomes a very pivotal life choice, arguably as much on the way up as at the top.

I am no relationship guru by any standards, but as a full time value creator there is a lot that you need from your life partner that may be overlooked in a “9-5 relationship”. A lot more patience, understanding and maybe most important foresight.

The rewards for a life partner who invests in a loving and loyal entrepreneur can me great. The difficulty for the entrepreneur of course is discerning who is only there for the upside…

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Who is Al?

An Article lovingly written by Daniel Mangena

Well hello there reader from somewhere whom I might never meet.

I had been asked by one of you wonderful people to share some details on my morning routine.

I wasn’t in the mood to write today.

So I am writing.

My chimp, which my friend and I named Alberto, likes to attempt to sabotage us sometimes. We have a chat about things and after some debate I now win the argument.

What is a chimp?

In a very poor paraphrasing of Professor Steve Peters who wrote about chimp theory in his book, The Chimp Paradox, it is our subconscious, primal self – I do hope that Steve will not take offence at my crude description and I really do recommend the book.

Yes, Al is short for Alberto and no, I don’t think that the title of this article is my greatest work, but I did show up and no matter what you think that is a win to me.

Alone however, my Al manual is but one tool that I have added to my box over the years that I have been dedicated to self improvement. I have been (un?)fortunate enough to have life push me to places whereby I had to grow mentally and indeed spiritually not to so much to expand, but to survive.

For those in the same place, growth is a way out when in the right framework. For those in a neutral position or ahead of the pack and just want to get better, there is really nothing better than looking at areas in your life where you can grow and better equip yourself to add value to the world.

I personally do my best to physically attend a course or program once a quarter and also read or listen to a book every week. I do a regular review of the areas in my life that I would like to improve, whether it be the quality of my relationships, my communication skills, my speaking and specific business skill such as money management and sales. These are all key to my being better equipped to live my life purpose.

I have a pot that I put 10% of my income into that funds this for both myself and the people I have around me (It is important that the people around you are on the same level after all) but there are lots of free resources available online that you can use as a starting block or even just to build the habit! You have the library and also those around you that you can tap into for use of book based courses and learning, as well as just taking the time to speak to people who are experts or more advanced than you in the area that you want to develop.

When I was flat broke and didn’t even have money to get to work because there was more month than money, just having a network of people around me who were on the same path made all the difference. We would share resources and take the time to help each other learn and grow – Your Network is your net worth. (but that is it’s own 300 words).

If you aren’t growing, then you’re dying.

That is how nature works.

Do yourself the justice of just doing one form of self development a quarter starting today. Then build it up. See the miracles happen….

And my morning routine? More on that another time…

Be well, stay blessed and a blessing!

 

 

 

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TEN POWERFUL LESSONS TO LEARN FROM THE HEN


 1.She first lays enough eggs before sitting on them- GOOD PLANNING.2.When she starts sitting on her eggs, she minimizes movements-DISCIPLINE.

3.She physically loses weight while sitting on her eggs due to decreased feeding-SACRIFICE AND SELF DENIAL.

4.She can sit on eggs from another hen-INDISCRIMINATION AND GENEROSITY.

5.She sits on her eggs for twenty one(21)days,patiently waiting, even if they do not hatch, she will lay eggs again- FAITH,HOPE AND NOT DISCOURAGED.

6.She detects unfertilised eggs and rolls them out-SENSITIVE AND DISCERNING.

7.She abandons the rotten eggs and starts caring for the hatched chicks even if it is only one- WISDOM, CONSCIOUSNESS, AND REALISTIC.

8. No one touches her chick-PROTECTIVE LOVE.

9.She gathers all her chicks together-UNITY OF PURPOSE.

10.She cannot abandon her chicks before they mature- MENTORSHIP.

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I am, that I Am – Integrity


I sat in an internet cafe in a quaint part of Freetown called Wilberforce. The African sun beat against the balcony as I coolly tapped away at the keyboard in the air conditioned shop.
I had great plans for being at my Aunt’s office today where I would take advantage of the high speed wifi and get some work done that just wasn’t happening on my phone. My kind hosts have a beautiful home up the hill not too far from the presidential palace, but the distance from the city centre though great for peace and quiet and exceptional views was horrid for infrastructure; myinternet quality wasn’t the greatest.

Plans aside, here I was, updating some content for the Beyond Intention Facebook group when the discussion quite suddenly slapped me.

As I went back and forth with one of the guys on Acceptance and recognising that there are no real changes or shifts that are out of our influence I found myself asking the question- am I truly living beyond intention?

Regular readers will know that I never make any claims of being anything more than a man who feels moved to share what he learns with others.

This was not a concern based on my being some kind of safe for the paradigm; although I assimilated the structure of the paradigm, I hold true to the fact that it grows as we all live and share our findings as adherents.

No,this was the very raw and singular question I asked myself. Was I living true to my commitment to live beyond intention.

When I started work on the paradigm in the dark days of 2009, I made a commitment to live by a certain standard. Regardless what external people know what that standard is, I know – this is part of the essence of integrity.

According to Nathaniel Brandon in his book “6 pillars of self esteem”, integrity is the position of your values meeting your actions. We can say then that integrity is where what we do aligns with who we say we are.

Making the commitment to be a man who lives beyond intent is not a task without challenges. As a species with the capacity that we do have for autonomy, it is ridiculous to see just how much energy we put into blaming others.

Daniel Mangena

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When you get a good idea…


God as my witness this app is a poor version of an idea I have been working on for an app for about a year now.

So often it is easy to lose sight of what a blessing imagination and creativity are – but things shape and progress our world!

Today’s painful lesson is a harsh reminder that if you won’t bring it to reality, then God/the Universe will still manifest it… Just someone else will get the credit and the reward!!!

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